Too many dating choices
If you don’t take the time to get to know him, you might miss out on someone great. Notice that you’re unconsciously looking for faults and eliminating your suitors instead of looking for and appreciating their positive qualities. Be curious about who he really is – his character, his passions, his heart! Realize that chemistry can grow (and it can also lead you astray again and again). Find a pace that’s not overwhelming (but keep putting yourself out there). Commit to spending TIME with your date so you can both relax and open up. He’s someone’s son, someone’s brother, someone’s best friend, uncle, co-worker and neighbor. Instead, look for the qualities that will impact your future happiness like kindness, dependability, the strength of character, shared values and life goals.In the late 1990s, for example, she and colleagues conducted an experiment in a high-end food store in California.
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
That’s why it’s important to make your most important decisions in the morning rather than at the end of an exhausting day when your energy has been depleted.
It's an experience common to most Peace Corps volunteers upon their return to the United States.
This kind of rigor goes into a lot of my decisionmaking.
Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.